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May 18, 2001
Santa Cruz, California
Received by K.S.
Medium: We have a request for guidance from a woman who has
been experiencing struggles in her life resulting from an absence of love
in her growing-up years which has carried over into her adulthood. She
is lonely and still acts out during interchanges with family members.
Dear Creator Soul, I pray that I will be able to put aside my forethoughts
in order to receive a message from a Celestial angel.
I am here now to write, my dear sister in Christ, and I come to you this
morning to lend my help in whatever way I am able. As you know, it is
up to the individual to apply the advice given, and as long as the attitudes
remain the same and reactions to the "expectations" of others
still trigger a negative response, the patterns will continue to be re-enacted.
We do realize that negative habit patterns are not easy to change and
that oftentimes people are not even aware of the fact that they are being
negative, and what they see in others is what they have in their own personality.
When you see someone acting in a way that you find displeasing, or what
you interpret as unsupportive, consider how you might be contributing
to their output. Do you expect rejection from that person? Are you acting
defensively? Are you doing something that might be triggering this reaction?
Just as individuals reap what they sow, groups do also, as in families
and countries. This "group" karma is not played out yet –
there are too many members of the group still hanging onto the "way
things were," not changing, not letting go of past resentments, not
acknowledging that changes can be made, and that these changes need to
start with them. If everyone in the world would get down on their knees
and pray for mercy and forgiveness and ask to be shown the way to overcome
their anger and negative attitudes, good changes would happen. But as
long as there is judgment placed on others for not doing "such and
such," or "Why can’t he be more loving?" or "Why
is he always so cruel to me?" the status quo will remain the same.
When a person learns to love her/himself and understands how important
it is to put as much love as possible into everything s/he does, then
good changes can come about. "The best way to have a friend is to
be one." Become the loving example you would like to see in others.
Expect your fulfillment to come from God’s Love through your prayers
to do His Will and become at-one with His Soul.
You will leave yourself open for disappointment if you believe your happiness
and fulfillment depends upon harmonious interchanges with others. At this
point in the spiritual evolution of humankind there is a long way to go
before unconditional love among brothers and sisters is achieved. This
love first needs to be sought for within your own heart and soul.
You should realize that people cannot give something which is not developed
within their own personalities. Each person is responsible for her / his
own spiritual development. You can help bring out the best in others when
you demonstrate your best. If you want and need and expect others to respect,
support and love you, be an example of what you would like to receive
from them.
Even if it means disappointment, "turn the other cheek," walk
away from confrontation, love the person confronting you. You are all
God’s beloved children. You make yourselves unhappy by acting out
according to old, familiar habit patterns and by not applying new attitudes
and outlooks on life.
Forgive others of their failings. Their anger is their own compensation.
If you think some people enjoy being miserable, I can assure you they
will find greater joy and peace and fulfillment when they learn to outgrow
their anger and negative attitudes.
I do not have the power to make you overcome your fear or loneliness
– you alone have that power. By praying for God’s Love and Mercy,
the Divine Love wells up in your soul, connecting you with God, and setting
you free from all manner of former negative emotions.
You might feel that "it’s not fair" or that your negative
attitude is not your fault, that it was "forced upon you" by
the mistreatment of others, but you do have a free will choice over how
you will react to what others say and do. You can retaliate or you can
decide to be loving in return. When you understand and accept that you
get back what you put out, then you will understand that if you want love,
you give love.
You may think that sounds simplistic, but I suggest you give it a try.
Try to overcome your negative response to a negative encounter. Try to
understand that another’s negativity does not have to effect you
in a negative way if you don’t allow it to.
As long as you expect happiness and fulfillment to be forthcoming from
another person you will be in for a letdown. Your fulfillment lies in
giving your love in everything you do. Receiving the Grace of God’s
Divine Love elevates the condition of your soul’s love. Peacefulness
and joy become yours when you possess God’s Love in your soul. You
will be able to love others even if they are "mean" to you.
This is the Nature of God’s Grace – It lifts you above the negativity
into a new life of love and joy.
I will leave you now with my blessings for a harmonious day ahead. Give
your love in each thought and deed. Know that God loves you beyond measure
and that when you tap into His Great Love, your life will become greatly
changed. It is entirely up to you and your free will choices.
God bless you and keep you in protective Arms of Love. I am your friend
and guardian, Joseph, the father of Jesus – the earthly father; God
is the Father of our souls, the One we need to worship in order to fulfill
our spiritual potential. I am a true follower of Jesus’ teachings
and have been born again in the Grace of God’s Love.
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